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I am Sandra Ihesiene, a relationship educator, lifestyle coach, and health and social care advocate with a heart to help individuals build stronger lives, healthier lifestyles, and more fulfilling relationships. I am certain that real success is in building the entire person—spirit, mind, and body—on the foundation of wisdom, compassion, and God’s law.
With decades of experience creating educational content, relationship content, and career guides, I am a specialist in deconstructing complex topics and making them tangible, life-changing solutions. Whether I’m collaborating with couples to strengthen their marriages, collaborating with individuals to embrace healthier lifestyles, or presenting business strategy wisdom, my goal is always the same: to empower you to succeed.
My work also extends to academic and professional research, corporate strategy review, and one-to-one mentoring. I am committed passionately to integrity, purposeful living, and constant development to allow people and organisations to build lives and systems that honour God and bless people.
If you’re ready for transformation, I’m here to guide you.

5 REASONS YOU SHOULD DISCUSS MONEY BEFORE SAYING I DO

No need to start discussing the importance of money, but I presume every adult understands that money is a necessity for good living. This makes it a very crucial topic that should be discussed between partners so they can have a common ground before saying “I DO”!
So, we discuss money;
1. To Prevent future conflict:
Money is one of the leading causes of tension in relationships. By having honest discussions about finances before marriage, couples can reduce misunderstandings that often lead to arguments or resentment later.
Example: One partner may prefer saving for the future, while the other enjoys spending in the present. Discussing this early helps find common ground.
2. To Clarify your individual expectations and roles:
Discussing money helps define expectations about who pays for what, how bills are split, and how income is managed. It also clarifies roles whether you’re combining incomes, keeping accounts separate, or creating joint budgets.
Tip: This sets the tone for fairness and avoids assumptions like “the man should pay for everything” or “my money is my business.”
3. To uncover debt and financial habits:
Talking about money helps couples uncover any existing debts, financial obligations (like supporting family), or spending habits. Transparency about credit history, loans, or student debt builds trust and allows for planning together.
Remember: Hiding debt or poor spending habits now can lead to serious trust issues later.

4. To support joint goal-setting

Shared dreams like owning a home, starting a business, or raising children require financial planning. Discussing money helps align both partners toward mutual goals and creates a plan to achieve them.

Joint goals give couples a reason to save, budget, and dream together rather than growing apart financially.

5. To establishe emergency planning and security:

Life is unpredictable and financial conversations allow couples to discuss savings, insurance, and emergency funds. This builds a sense of security and partnership in the face of life’s uncertainties.